Growing up,parents frowned at girls mingling with boys.you were not meant to be seen with any. What did that bring us?PRETENSE.sorry,if Adam lived such a long live on earth,giving birth to many children aside Cain and Abel,that means he started having sexual relations with his wife at a young age,who would you say told him?GOD of course!
what I am trying to say is that God made everything including sex and saw it was good. Dating is that period in your child's life when there is a need to recognize who he or she is really is,understand how to relate with the opposite sex and learn what it takes to transit to a more responsible adult.Am I trying to condone teen immorality?NO WAY. Instead, I am trying to make our parents understand the needs of these young adults.Teens and youth can be secretive because of the tendency to judge them.
Dating is a time to teach these teens the importance of respecting women,curbing their desires,knowing when to set boundaries and last but not the least learning about the other gender whilst still enjoying themselves .Is it not an opportunity to be brazen with their youthful desires?The possibility is there,but reduced under parental guidance,so many parents never knew their saintly youth had had an abortion or addicted to smoking etc. all because they chose to look the other way while it budded.if you don't tell them,their friends will,their environment will,the media will. Allow them bring their friends home,proffer your opinions to them and listen to theirs,knowing that they have a say in some issues makes them act responsibly .What about their attraction to the opposite sex?Absolutely healthy,make sex less mysterious and the clamor for it will reduce!
Some of us missed dating because our society frowned at us associating publicly but could not stop the effects of nature when two unguided youths meet secretly. Dating is not SEX,it is a time for discovery and it doesn't mean we won't get hurt in our relationships but it could help us understand and broaden our perspective on why it didn't work out and move on more easily.
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